Okay, I'm going to answer a few questions that have been asked throughout this whole board.
Suicide, et al....
At my school, if a woman signs her card after preference night, she is obligated to join one of the two sororites if she is given a bid. If she is not given a bid she is free to go wherever. If she gets a bid, and does not accept it, she may not rush again for one calendar year. I personally suicided my chapter because I knew it was where I had to be and, although I respected my other pref, I just knew I wouldn't put my all into it. I am very happy with my decision.
PX and suicide...
I was also a PX last year, and our advice to women was not to suicide, BUT if they were very seriously considering it, they were not penalized, we just had to explain that there was a higher chance of them not getting a bid. It was their decision to make and we could only help them in the process. After pref night, we counseled women who needed help, and then they were sent off to a room to fill out their cards without us (PXs) so we never knew their choices. Every other night we saw their cards so we knew how they would react the next day i.e. if they were getting their top choices or last choices.
On being a PX...
It was hands down the best experience of my life. We had a huge form to fill out, with 8 essay questions, plus general info, and an interview just to be selected. People talk about the bad things like disaffiliation, but I truly believe that being away from your chapter makes you love it more. Plus you form bonds of sisterhood with all your fellow PXs. You go through so much together. And helping the women go through formal rush is one of the most exciting feelings in the world. Being there for the highs and lows, answering their questions. In a way, they become your children. You take all their feelings to heart and you get to live one of the most exciting times in your life all over again.
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