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Originally Posted by c0nfusedpnm
Are sororities that have COB in the Spring under the assumption that girls going through went through formal rush and dropped? So they think they already know the houses and are already positive who they're rushing is who they want to join?
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Sororities would not be under the assumption that girls doing informal recruitment went through formal recruitment and dropped. They would remember you from formal recruitment, since chapters tend to keep track of those things.
If a PNM is going through informal recruitment, the burden is on the PNM to familiarize herself with the chapters and figure out where the best place for her would be. I cannot speak for anyone at your campus, but I can say that I was under the impression that PNMs who came to our informal events were at least reasonably sure that our chapter would be the best match for them. Having said that, I must admit that my chapter only extended informal bids to PNMs who were already friends with sisters. Because of this, we also knew that the sisters we gave informal bids to were only rushing our chapter, whether they had done formal recruitment in the past or not.
ConfusedPNM, no one here can tell you what to do and I urge you to consider what is best for you and go with the decision you won't regret. From reading your posts, you don't seem comfortable accepting your either of the bids you received without giving the other chapters consideration. That's my impression from reading your posts. If that's the case, I hope that you can find a gracious way of phrasing the fact that you will be declining a bid from a sorority that you may still be interested in becoming a part of in the future and that you eventually find your home.