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Originally Posted by scrabblemomb
My daughter is a Freshman who has gone through Rush for the past few weeks. After reading the blogs online, I was dreading the possibility that she wouldn't get a bid on bid night. She had a pretty good and full rush. On Saturday, she said that she didn't feel a connection with any of the chapters she saw that day. I encouraged her to stay with it, and after Sunday it was not any better for her so she dropped. Do I think that there was a possible fit for her somewhere in the Greek system? Yes. But I am happy that she did what was right for her, and didn't settle for a group that wasn't right for her. Yes. On some of the blogs, girls were calling those who dropped early "brats" because they didn't get what they wanted. I am actually proud of my daughter for knowing that what was offered was not for her. There is so much beyond this at IU. Encourage your daughters to go for all that is offered beyond Greek Life!
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Scrabblemomb - first, I totally agree that iUs recruitment is messed up. I will not argue with you there. And I'm totally fine with your daughter doing what's best for her, but I think it's good for women to finish the process and go to preference round even if they think it's not a good fit. No one is forced to sign a preference card after the round. it may be their only chance to go Greek at IU so why not see it out. Just as PNMs get mad at sororities for cutting them after only a few conversations, the same could be said to girls who refuse to move forward bc they don't know these chapters very well either and many are basing decisions on reputations from that same website that calls them "brats" for dropping out. Also, many of the women in those chapters were in your daughters shoes, yet made a different choice and are happy. Btw, stay off that site, it's toxic! I don't think girls who drop out are brats but I do think they are making decisions based on feeling hurt or disappointed rather than seeing the big picture, but I totally agree it's their choice.
My daughter listed 3 houses on her card and will pledge any of the 3 if she is fortunate to receive a bid. She's a sophomore so she probably has a different perspective on recruitment and the chapters than a freshman, but has decided she wants to be Greek for the sisterhood experiences and campus experiences such as iudm and little 5 where she said the Greeks just seem to be having more fun.
Best wishes to your daughter. There is a lot to offer at IU and I hope she finds what she's looking for.