[LAblondeGPhi]

I read the article and thought that both the author's piece and the comments were pretty balanced, articulate and thoughtful about the process.

The author says that she's experienced rejection before, but her point about most PNMs not being prepared for what rejection during sorority recruitment feels like is a really valid one. She does make some insinuations that I don't particularly agree with, but on the whole, I think this is a great article to help prepare PNMs for a process they may not be familiar with. I would love for the author to have emphasized how important it is to keep an open mind, but she's not really coming at the process from the same angle we are, so I can't really fault her for that.

We all know that sorority recruitment is it's own beast, and the kind of rejection is different from many other kinds that young people face. I agree that Millenials (I'm in this category, barely) grew up getting too many participation trophies and not enough "no's", but they still experience all kinds of rejection: not making a competitive team, losing out on a coveted award to another student, being dumped by a girl/boyfriend, social rejection from a desired peer group, college applications, etc.

We've all said before how sorority recruitment is very fast and exhausting - it often doesn't leave time for PNMs to adequately and maturely process their feelings.

We've all acknowledged that rejection during recruitment can feel really random and personal - these women feel like they're making a great connection with sorority sisters, only to be "rejected" in the next round.

And we all know that rejection during recruitment can be really confusing and defy logic - non of our organizations reveal membership criteria, leaving PNMs to wonder if it was because they weren't pretty enough, connected enough, smart enough, charming enough, or something else enough.

I think the author did a nice job of trying to explain the unexpected pain that can come from this process, and I found this to be a particularly well-written line from the article:
"Because the rejections are generally inexplicable—women will never know what precisely caused them to be excluded—they affirm and intensify our greatest insecurities."