[1964Alum]

No, I think she was quite accurate and realistic.

Where I went to college, rush was deferred for a whole year. So many of us had the opportunity to meet members as they did us.

When I started rush, I knew where the interest in me lay. And also felt that the success of my first year in college would stand me in good stead. BUT I took nothing for granted. NOTHING! I knew that there were other well-qualified candidates and that I was in a competitive process where I may or may not get a bid from one of my three favorites or even a bid at all.

As it turned out, mine was a close to perfect rush as I was dropped from but one party at the very end, and by a group that I would not fit into at all.

I ended up getting a bid from my first choice from the get-go and pledged them. I knew that I would have been disappointed had I not gotten a bid from my first choice, but my other preferential was also a wonderful group I would have been happy with.

So I did not suffer the disappointment that so many did so cannot address that. But I did go into rush with the knowledge and understanding that other rushees might have more appeal then I so entered with a great deal of humility. And I do think that every young woman entering rush needs to do so with that mindset. And to be appreciative for every invitation back, even those not at the top of her list. Was it nerve-wracking? YES! But I didn't assume anything or take anything for granted.

All the above said, though, once on the other side, rush was never my favorite part of sorority life as I knew that many would be hurt and not understand the process.