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I understand why there needs to be a check in the system to curb the potential for girls to pledge a chapter on one campus with the intent of transferring to another (especially in my area of the country).
But the practice of preventing an initiated member (in good standing) from affiliating with her sisterhood on another campus has always seemed, to me, somewhat contradictory to the creed of the sisterhood. It certainly lends a hollow ring to the notion that one has joined a “lifelong sisterhood.” Lifelong -- except not during your life on this campus?
I think it might be fair to speculate that affiliation is more difficult when transferring from a less recruitment-competitive campus to more recruitment-competitive campus. This chapter “classism” exists – a sister from a strong chapter on a competitive campus may be regarded differently than a sister from a weaker-recruiting chapter in a less competitive system. This may “feel” as if an ABC on one campus is less than an ABC on another campus.
Disheartening for the sister who wants to affiliate, and easy to understand why it feels like rejection – even betrayal. While I agree with much of the advice on this thread because it reflects the reality of the situation, and (as others have) also encourage the OP to maintain her membership, I feel bad for the young woman who must take care not to offend others in her own sisterhood by wearing her letters.
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