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Originally Posted by sweetheart272
yes, this is definitely my thinking. while i know you all realize inside i have feelings that certain allegations against me were wrong, even if am fully 100% guilty of an offense worthy of punishment on the termination level… that is tough to swallow because termination is a PERMANENT dismissal. even if i was a terrible PR risk for the chapter, beating people up or part time job at a strip club, etc… however bad as you can imagine… that doesn't mean that later in life i won't be more responsible and better suited for membership.
there's lots of little old ladies who really are active for their lifetime. i feel it's very unfair that one incident (whether it is worthy of strict punishment or not) could mean that i couldn't even participate in alumna teas 50 years from now. do you really think i'd still be a crazy PR risk as a 70 year old lady?
i know that's an extreme example, but i'm exaggerating to bring light to the fact that people often change throughout the years. i don't think mistakes you make in college should limit you from doing things later in life as an adult.
i very much want to become an alumna member. i know a lot of people might think of this as ridiculous, but it sounds very appealing to me. i live in an area with several active alumna chapters. furthermore, even though the collegiate experience in a sorority is different (at least in mine i've found it revolves around partying and alcohol) and there are things like that that won't be replicated in an alumna chapter, but the parts about my sorority that i care about the most are the fundraising endeavors for our philanthropy, camaraderie working together on various projects, and helping others (such as younger collegiate members one day) are the focus of those alumna groups, and i would think that the sorority would want to take advantages of someone who wants very much to help out, volunteer, and pay dues
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News flash: you are an adult at age 18, legally. You are now going to be paying expensive tuition in the school of life. The prodigal son is a story in the Bible. It doesn't play out often or well in real life. Prisons are full of people who sing a similar song. We aren't talking about rehabilitation. We're talking about direct consequences for not following rules in a voluntary membership organization.
Reminder: it isn't one incident we're talking about here. Makes me question if you yourself didn't participate in the "partying and alcohol" aspects of your chapter that you disparaged, above. I haven't seen anyone brought up for termination for spending too much time at the library.
I gave you a clear option. You don't like it. You're still talking about "it's not fair." We are not your national leadership/decision makers, who hold your future in their hands.
The wise course and path of least resistance is to resign, gracefully. Wait a year or two and petition for reinstatement, if that is an option in your organization. It probably is, but I don't know for sure, unless you are a Theta. Give things time to settle down a bit. If there are no alumnae advisors present to recall the specifics of your case (as you previously stated, there haven't been any advisors whatsoever - am I right?) so much the better.