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Originally Posted by sweetheart272
that is what i plan to request, however, as other posters have said the decision is not up to me.
i plan to explain that my reason for wanting this is that altho i really want to be involved with XYZ sorority, i don't think this particular chapter is a good fit for me to be a part of.
i'm still not sure though, how much or how little about why i don't feel the chapter is a good fit, would be appropriate to include.
since i am at a disadvantage here in supporting my position, i worry they won't understand why i would be a good fit for an alumna chapter but not my chapter, given that they don't know the same discrediting information that i know about my chapter's issues.
I'm telling you, based on experience, the best thing for you to do is resign. At least that way you have a chance of preserving your membership IF YOU CAN SUCCESSFULLY GET REINSTATED.
I don't know all 26 NPC policies on early alumna status. It is not possible for my organization. And once the termination process has started (financial or disciplinary), the only way to avoid it is to voluntarily resign. And no one who has been terminated has ever been reinstated, to the best of my knowledge. Again that is only for my organization. Termination is usually for serious reasons (financial or discipline).
maybe this is an erroneous opinion on my part, but i feel like the only way that i can be successful in maintaining my membership is by proving i am "right" and the board was "wrong"… otherwise i just don't see why they'd see any reason to support me. i don't know how to do this though, as i don't want to come off negatively as a "tattle-tale" or get off topic.
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I can see both anonadvisor's and amiablue?'s points of view on this situation. OP, you're still beating the "they are wrong" drum. That is not to your advantage. At all. Neither is stating that the chapter isn't a good fit for you. There are most likely other members who feel that way, but they haven't had the issues you've had or ended up where you are at this point in time.
Important fact:
Your standards/discipline board recommended you for termination. It went to a chapter vote. Let me tell you that if the chapter had not voted to uphold your standards committee, the matter would have ended there. The national organization is very, very unlikely to overturn the chapter vote, for many reasons. Unless you have irrefutable proof that the standards board and chapter violated bylaws and policies, you're SOL.
Bottom line: your behaviors over the past two or three (?) years have created this situation. You are the architect of your own demise. Blame away, but until you accept that fact, you're stuck.