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Originally Posted by Kevin
That's your culture. Your background gives you very specific values and beliefs about child rearing. Those values and beliefs are not universally shared. Some people think that if you don't use corporal punishment, you are a poor parent and different cultures have widely different ideas about the proper way to raise a child.
Because Dr. Spock published his book and you agree with him doesn't make your culture and background more relevant or correct than others.
I try to have an open mind when working child abuse cases. I'm not sure any of us want to live in a country where the government comes into everyone's home and threatens potential criminal action for anyone who doesn't follow the government's plan for child rearing.
We shouldn't be in the business of punishing parents unless it is readily apparent that the parent's intent in hitting the child was to be cruel, to torture, etc.
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I agree.
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Originally Posted by Munchkin03
How do you think that informs future interactions, when that child is an adult?
Not making a judgement, just thinking out loud. This might be off-topic but a couple of years ago I had a coworker who was upset with me because he felt I didn't "respect [him] enough." It seems that, even though he wasn't of the African diaspora, that he had the same thinking that younger people just automatically have to respect their elders whether or not they actually earned it.
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For some Black people: Choosing aggression, arguments, and violence as a first resort; inability to have even small interactions without it turning into an argument and potentially leading to violence; and an inability to control anger.
For some Black people: Being quiet, reserved, and almost subservient from fear of punishment or any reminders of her/his upbringing.
For some Black people: Becoming opposed to any type of disagreements, anger, tension, raised voices, loud talk, etc. because it reminds the person of her/his upbringing.