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Originally Posted by DrPhil
That's another cultural difference. Many cultures do not care about respect (in the "we're both humans, let's talk it out and then walk it out" sense of the word) between parent and child. For example, in Black American culture and other African diaspora cultures, the tendency (WARNING: GENERALIZATION THAT DOESN'T APPLY 100%) is to be stern and invoke fear. It doesn't matter that the child is afraid and only behaving for the time being and to avoid further punishment. The phrase "you better/you're going to respect me" is used in the same manner as not looking adults in the eye unless told to do so. It isn't a parent-child-equal-footing-respect to which mainstream cultures tend to adhere.
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How do you think that informs future interactions, when that child is an adult?
Not making a judgement, just thinking out loud. This might be off-topic but a couple of years ago I had a coworker who was upset with me because he felt I didn't "respect [him] enough." It seems that, even though he wasn't of the African diaspora, that he had the same thinking that younger people just automatically have to respect their elders whether or not they actually earned it.