[pinksequins]

The word is "downcast" rather than "outcasted" because the chapter that issued you a bid wanted you -- you weren't an outcast. : )

During the new member period, see if there are members to which you can relate. Sometimes one can feel more comfortable outside the formal constructs of recruitment. Some chapters simply aren't as good at formal conversations, but can be quite fun outside of that setting. See if that is the case with your group. If so, make a plan with other kindred spiritis to up the game on convo skills next fall. If despite your efforts to engage (and you have to put in the effort and not leave parties early or sit back and wait for them to engage you), then you might wish to drop prior to initiation.

Remember to put in the effort (no leaving the party early). First, you can with good conscience say that you really tried and it just didn't work. Second, it's a necessary life skill. This will not be the first time your parade will be in the rain - you can either be bedraggled or you can pop out a colorful umbrella and jump in the puddles!