[DubaiSis]

Sunny3, if you would read through the years of posts on this site, you will see these same complaints over and over again. Not that it helps, but it was worse before RFM and guaranteed placement for girls who complete the process and maximize their options. Back then, girls could have stellar rushes, preference at their 2 or 3 favorite houses and on bid day have zippo. There's only 1 school left that still does it that way. And we're not going there right now!

But I'd also like to caution you against thinking the sorority is the house. For those of us who went to schools with the big beautiful structures it is really hard to imagine sorority life without the all-nighters in the tv room or early morning panic in the basement before rush parties start. But there are plenty of sorority women out there who have absolutely as good experiences, although different, from schools that don't have sorority housing. Besides, with the size of the chapters versus the size of the houses, a large percentage of the chapter doesn't live in anyway, won't ever live in. A pledge class of 100 (times approximately 3 is a good gauge of chapter size) and a house that will hold 75 or so means your daughter isn't experiencing all that much different than she would have anyway.

As a member of a new chapter, your daughter's experience WILL be different from the girls who are in the 100 year old chapter. But she also gets to put her mark on a chapter in a way that "old row" kind of member never could. There is no "but we've always done it this way" in her chapter. And that can be more difficult, but also a lot more freeing.