[FSUZeta]

Sunny,

It is not just about GPA. It is not just about HS activities, appearance, leadership, clothes, personality, reputation,etc. It is about the whole PNM and what the sorority is looking for and needs. It is about the impression the PNM makes on her rush hostess. It is about recs. It is about connections, prior acquaintances and friendships. It is about a lot of unfathomable things.

Your daughter will recover. Like other disappointments or "didn't go according to plans" events, there is really no way to prepare in advance for those bumps in the road. But you raised her right! She accepted her bid and is going about the business of making friends in her chapter.

What was it Eleanor Roosevelt said? "People can only make you feel bad about yourself if you let them", or something to that affect. It really is true and it sounds like your daughter is well on her way to getting to that place where she is enjoying herself and soon won't give a fig what others think. Soon you and she will both be feeling that her glass is half full, not half empty. It is true that things did not work out as you and she had thought, BUT, she had a sorority that wanted her in their sisterhood. They didn't have to offer her a bid, but they saw in her a girl who they felt was worthy of their friendship, loyalty, and love. That bid is a gift that I think she is starting to value, and I hope you will be able to soon too.