[KappaKittyCat]

I can tell you that the thing that most makes me remember a girl in FR is if she asks me as many questions as I ask her. The more relevant, the better. This was especially good when I was a new and inexperienced rusher. The girl who's now my little sis was the first PNM I'd ever rushed and I was extremely nervous, as I'd just been initiated myself not three weeks before that. Her older sister is a ZTA (I forget where) and had told her that even if she decided at the end of the week that she didn't want to be in a sorority, she still had to go through FR and make an informed decision. For that reason, my little went through FR bound and determined to soak up as much information as possible about everything. She'd done her homework and asked me tons of questions about our philanthropy, the history of Kappa, what I liked best about it, why I'd joined, what the NM program was like, everything. I was highly impressed. We had a very good conversation about open-mindeness and some of the happy things its allowed us to discover. As soon as that party was over, I announced to the room, "That's my little sis!" It took a good year, but I got my wish.

Ok, sorry, that got long...

Another thing that really impressed me and made me remember one particular PNM was her confidence. She told me the first night how happy she was... she'd met so many wonderful women from every chapter and she was sure she'd find the right match for herself. She did this without arrogance, but with complete honesty and-- it really just seemed like-- faith! Someone who is obviously confident and comfortable with herself puts people at ease.

So yeah... my biggest piece of advice for you is to be honest! Be honest about who you are. Don't hide behind fear or insecurity. Nobody's perfect, they're just as anxious for you to like them as you are for them to like you. Be honest about your interest. Go in determined to make the best decision possible for you to make.

"A sister is the mirror that shows you who you are while whispering of who you dare to become."

Best of luck to you.