[DrPhil]

Reputations are subjective and often based on gendered double standards. Most people don't believe what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

ETA: At the college level and alumnae/alumni/graduate level, I have seen people try to ruin aspirants' and members' reputations and experiences over mere gossip, misunderstandings, disagreements, and butthurt feelings. People can be extremely phony, childish, and underhanded for no reason other than they are vindictive and have too much time on their hands. That's why I never listened to everyone's opinion of aspirants (and members) when I was a collegiate member and as an alumnae member.