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Originally Posted by carnation
I know many girls who were pushed--yes, pushed--into listing a chapter they didn't want on their card. There are different ways Pi Chis do this,from shaming them to telling them their card will get kicked out of the computer if they SIP to doing a heavy emotional number on them about how horrible they'll feel on Bid Day if everyone else is celebrating and they aren't.
There are no doubt several examples of girls who got their last choice and loved it after all. This is not what I'm seeing here. The ones I see most often went to Bid Day and tried to fake happiness but in a year or less left the chapter. Others resigned before initiation or never showed up for Bid Day.
Most who could re-rush did and got other bids the next year--particularly this year, even at SEC schools. There were various reasons that these PNMs did what they did.
However, it is *wrong* of Pi Chis to badger a PNM into listing a chapter she obviously doesn't want, especially if it involves lies like "the computer will spit out your card". If the PNM SIPs and gets the call, that's on her. But Pi Chis, if you harass or lie to a PNM and she gets the chapter she can't stand and is bound for a year--that's on YOU.
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Coming out of lurkerdom to say that this is the best thing I've read on this topic.