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Originally Posted by pinksequins
DGTess nailed it. There need not be a sound or persuasive reason. These women can make whatever choice they deem right for them, whether we personally agree or not. Not all PNMs are seeking friends -- like it or not, there are status seeking PNMs; there are Regina George PNMs. If a PNM wishes to ISP, so be it. Lectures are not going to change their minds nor necessarily make them feel bad. Often it has the opposite effect.
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Yes, plenty of Regina Georges, I don't see it as my job to educate or persuade them to be anything else. Usually this type of attitude is so engrained, that is isn't really you can coach someone into being open-minded. In all likelihood, their parents and their upbringing had a lot of influence on it.
On that note, I can think of at least three Regina Georges in my pledge class who pretty much went out of their way freshman year to erode the morale of my class, by continually reminding everyone how lucky we were to have them, as we were their 2nd choice. I remember at our freshman walkout, overhearing someone tell them, "too bad you didn't suicide" when the subject came up,
again. They quit by mid-semester of sophomore year and nobody missed them. We didn't stoop to trying to convince them to stay or get mad at them, this would have only inflated their egos. In fact, we were a lot stronger when they did leave. There were a couple sisters who wanted to drop for other reasons along the way, and they were worth fighting for.