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Look at it this way:
My BFF comes over to my home, with another person that I don't particularly care for in tow. BFF may or may not know my feelings, but that is immaterial. I welcome them BOTH in, I serve them both refreshments, I include BOTH of them in the conversation. Other Person has no clue that I do not particularly care for him/her. I am treating Other Person the way my grandmother taught me to treat people. Everyone is a GUEST in your home, and you behave accordingly. I don't put Other Person outside with the dogs and put BFF in the living room, we all sit in the kitchen or on the back patio and have a nice visit.
Other Person leaves with a good impression of my hospitality and hopefully me (depends on how the dogs behave, truthfully. They can be difficult with people at times). I may privately inform BFF never to do that again, but while it's happening, I'm on my best behavior.
The end.
Not touching the HQ/alum piece of this situation. Sticking to my basic point: good manners are good manners.
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"One of the painful things about our time is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision." Bertrand Russell, The Triumph of Stupidity
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