Were should I start....I dont' think that you
have to be married to have support from the father of your child and I really dispise the fact that you are considered a single parent when you are not married even though you are not parenting singly.
Next, I understnad you veiw on single parent families, but please understand that my definition of a single parent family is one were there is a
single parent. Just because you aren't married doesn't mean you are doing it alone. (for example, divorced women aren't usually called single parents if the father still cares for the children)
But as far as bonding with the 5 month old fetus, maybe it's just me, but wouldn't the fetus be with her were ever she went.
And as far as the entire topic goes, don't let people discourage you. I had a line of five and four of us have children. My son is fifteen days older than one of my sisters and they had a ball together when ever we met to study or anything, and besides that we supported each other and my whole chater supports each other. That's what sisterhood means.... well at least that is what I was taught. If my son was sick, I got call s all day asking if everything was alright, did I/he need anything and it wasn't just words it was love.
I can say that I guess I do have a great support system and maybe that is why I am so against the comments that tell this lady to not join a sorority. But my son has not been harmed or neglected by me being a member of my org. and if a chapter or org won't or can't accept your family then maybe you shouldn't want to join their family
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gloriajean said: In response to eclipse, I suppose one could also ask the nature of the question and why would you want to know?
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gloriajean, I'm not sure what you mean by 'the nature of the question.' Could you clarify? As to why I want to know...their marital status would give me some indication of the support system that they had while undertaking such an endevour and like a lot of questions that are asked on this board I just wanted to know! 
DELTABRAT said: "Why is the marital status of these women an issue?"
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An issue???? I wouldn't say that it is an 'issue' for me, but I do think, if they were not married it should be an 'issue' for the sorority they were pledging.
If the next question is why would it be an issue...
1. I think a woman 5 months pregnant, married or not, should spend that time bonding with her baby to be, the father, etc., not trying to bond with her linesisters. That time is very important for the baby's devolpment. Plus, 3-4 months after she crossed she would probably be 'out of commission' for a while taking care of the baby, so what contribution could she make to the sorority? Of course, since I do not know the young lady in question, I am merely speculating.
2. As for the 25 or 26 with 3 children..time would certainly be a factor in my book! Plus, if you are a 25 year old single mother with 3 children,,,well, let me not go there!
3. In addition, I have heard many older members of sororities express distain for their younger sorors who are single parents because of the negative image that they may be sending to younger girls (in their youth or teen mentoring groups especially) that they might be mentoring.
I personally think society's standard regarding out of wedlock children has gotten too lax and that we must display the attitude that it is not o.k.
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