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I see so many examples of women withdrawing from the process because they didn't feel 100% comfortable with the sororities that they had remaining. Honestly...how many of us felt completely confident and sure about our choices? How many felt this ironclad connection after a few short days during FFR? I sure didn't.

Years ago when I went through, I knew that I wanted to be Greek more than I wanted to be an XYZ, so I went through the process with an open mind and didn't just focus on a few "top tier" groups. PNM's who are doing this are setting themselves up for disappointment. When I opened my card on Bid Day and received a bid from my second choice group, I was upset, but got over it and had the best college experience, and have been extremely engaged (both with time and finances) as an alumna. Life is not always fair...women today need to learn to deal with life's disappointments and make the most of the situation.

Recruitment today can be brutal and there are no guarantees. This generation of women is not used to being told no. At these super-competitive schools, women should be thrilled to receive a bid from ANY group. This popularity-contest mentality is such a shame. SO many are missing out on an incredible life-long experience because of this thinking.