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Originally Posted by pinapple
I 100% understand what you are saying but the base of disappointment in ANY Greek System during recruitment, IN MY OPINION, is our societal norm that we never allow children to fail. Trophies for every kid, ribbons for everyone one who isn't first, second, or third, etc. Some of these girls walk through doors of these houses never having had experienced major life disappointments. They arrive at the college they wanted, in the car they wanted and are staying in the dorm they wanted. When that is the case and it is coupled with a disappointing recruitment, it is a perfect storm and a horrible way to start a new chapter of one's life. I certainly do not have the solution, but I do believe this is a huge part of the issue when it comes to how the disappointment is handled. I see it every year. The girls that are actually released, the girls that "self" release and the girls that simply cannot accept that her bid card says ABC instead of DEF. You could literally line up the majority of women in the majority of houses, strip their letters, shuffle them up and you would never know the difference. Because of that in the deep part of the brain that is our reasoning sector, the girls have to realize it was not personal, no matter how it feels.
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I went through rush back before the everyone gets a trophy mentality, and it was still a difficult experience. I suspect that it's even harder now, partially because the kids have less experience with setbacks growing up like you note, but also because the group of girls rushing at UGA is so much more "competitive" for lack of a better word because of UGA being harder to get into.
So many of them would have been absolute top rushees back in the day based on GPA and resumes, and now they are just average for the process. (I see this sometimes when I look at legacies and their moms' chapters. The daughters are probably more accomplished than their moms at the same age but end up in "lesser" chapters because the whole pool is that much more accomplished than previous UGA generations.)
I agree with you that it's not very personal, even though it feels that way.