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Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

Hi there guys,

As you can tell by my name, I am not too happy being a GDI at my university. Right now I am heading into my final semester of college and due to some issues I could not rush a fraternity. You see, I took the community college route but ended up staying an extra semester at my community college. After transferring to my current university (a large SEC school), I had some minor problems adjusting in my first semester as a STEM student since I was on my own for the first time. Classes at my college were a lot harder too so I had some minor issues with time management which are now fortunately resolved. After my first semester, I consistently made the dean's list and will likely graduate college with a 3.7.

That said, I was also a son of immigrants and that led to me not even knowing the importance of Greek Life on American college campuses. It wasn't until I was in my second year of college that I saw the beauty of being in a fraternity. At first it was through movies and popular belief but then I researched it and asked around.

Unfortunately being that I am a 21 yr old who is almost done with college, I will never get to be in a traditional college fraternity no matter what I do. The one thing that made me see the beauty of fraternities was the fact that you have a close group of male friends you can bond with and make life long connections with. I could care less about hooking up with a cute sorority girl or partying like crazy, what I want is a close group of male friends I can hang out with and just be friends with really.

You see, when I was growing up, I was also homeschooled and though this helped me academically, it hurt me a lot socially. I know that I can just go out and chat with people and I have done that but for the first time in my life I really want to belong to something that is like a fraternity in the sense of a brotherhood.

Are there any things like this in grad school or life after college?

Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

could a grad student join a fraternity anyways? And please do not give me suggestions about what decision to take in that regard, I know what I am getting myself into.

Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

So my social skills are the ones that need work? Okay lets rewind.

" Don't try to join something in grad school (other than professional organizations). Concentrate on getting your masters."

That is a command and not even something I asked for. I asked explicitly for fraternal like organizations in college and if they exist. No where did I explicitly say "hay guys should I join a fraternity in grad school?". If you cannot read then that isn't my problem, that is yours.

Quit worrying about my life and what grad school is going to be like, I made it through college with a good GPA and I know what I am getting myself into. If you cannot answer the question at hand then don't even respond to the thread. The question itself is: What organizations after college are like fraternities. The question is not: Should I join a fraternal organization after college?

Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

That said, I found this site through google and so far the only things I have heard about are Free Masons and the Military. I was looking for other organizations that are like a fraternity in terms of a brotherhood and I do know it is too late for me to be a part of a fraternity anyways. If you cannot do something as simple as just answer that question and talk about different fraternal organizations then why even post on this thread? Sure 33 might be a moderator but anyone can see that her posts touch on so much stuff that nearly irrelevant to this thread. If I wanted to ask about the workload of grad school I would go to forums intended for that purpose.

This forum is intended for answering questions involving Greek Life so is it too much to ask for to focus on that rather than playing the role of helicopter parent and trying to tell me horror stories about academics in grad school?

Originally Posted by UnfortunateGDI

As seen on this thread, some of the members on this site and particularly the moderators can be downright rude and need a lesson in some humility. That said, I want to thank all of you that have messaged me information about this sort of material.

To me, belonging to a brotherhood (preferably one that is like a fraternity) means everything right now in life. I was not born with a golden spoon in my mouth like a lot of these classless users on here and I had to always play catch up due to being part of an immigrant family. Unfortunately I knew none of this ever mattered as much in American society but I have learned the hard way that no amount of success, social skills, intelligence, or money can buy you the kind of brotherhood that fraternities and like organizations provide. That is why we have so many older guys who get depressed in life, because they feel lonely.

I want to thank everyone that actually did help me through messaging me and please, I am sure that even though these bitter classless individuals will continue to berate me, I can ignore it. Please offer up some relevant advice and I will gladly take it.

If it is possible for grad students to rush a fraternity, let me know how I can go about doing that as a grad student.

QFP'ed posts that weren't already qfp'ed.

Read your own words, and look to your tone. Discrediting people and name calling when they don't agree with you speaks to your social skills ability.

Re: the bolded. I think that's the crux of the issue. A fraternity won't fix that. You also might want to focus on not drawing illogical conclusions.