Things are going to be ok!
However . . . lol y'all didn't think I would leave it at that did you?
You will go through a period of time where you feel self conscious. That is normal.
He will act strangely around you, or you will assume he is acting strangely because you are more sensitive. That is also normal.
Then you will go through a period of adjustment where you both start changing feelings about each other. Normal.
Then you will fall back into your new relationship whatever it is. That is healthy.
It sucks that he disses you after sex, but you didn't do anything wrong, so don't feel guilty.
You didn't "Take" anything from him, you didn't rape the guy . . did you? You just gave him his first sexual experience, lucky him. Hopefully it was an intensely good experience for him.
Don't over analyze it with your GF's. They will probably get his behavior wrong on interpretation, and just hurt you unnecessarily.
The vast majority of the analysis on here by girls about boys is so far off it takes my breathe away. And there are some seriously bright girls on this site.
Good luck, and feel free to PM me or IM me at ksjwk2000 if you want a guy's perspective.
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Originally posted by thetakates
Ok, do any of you ladies out there ever hook up with someone and then feel really bad because they totally diss you afterward? I am really good friends with this guy and we have had sexual feelings toward each other for a long time. I want a relationship, but he didnt and i understood. Well he was a virgin and I felt that I didnt want to take it away from him.I have been with a few guys and feel that I dont want to be a slut just becuase I have had sex before and now take it away from him. But I did and now I feel horrible, becasue a) he doesnt want a relationship and b) he kind of has treated me like shit after I did have sex with him and c)he was a virgin and I have never done that before.
I hate having random sex and that is what this is beginning to feel like now! He is totally ignoring me and now it seems like the only reason we were frineds in the first place is becuse some how he "knew" that I would take it away from him!
Please someone just make me feel better and tell me that things are going to be ok.
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