[LouisaMay]

I believe that you can make both work. Your sorority experience might not look like anyone else's experience, but it doesn't need to! If I were you, I would work on making your sorority experience narrow rather than broad. The chapter meeting is broad; working on a committee is narrow. Attending formal is broad; having coffee (or tea...love your screen name) with a different sister or two every Sunday night (for example) is narrow. See what I mean? You've made a mature choice. You know what you need, and you are doing it. But that doesn't mean that you are going against your promise to support and commit to your sorority. Think about the aspects of sorority where you can have an impact and zoom into those.

Best of luck to you! I wish more students knew how to evaluate priorities and make adjustments as needed. It sounds to me like you have a lot to give to both organizations.