i did not post the response for folks to pass judmement on my line sisters! it was posted to help this young lady see that women with children can become members of sororities. i look at this as a positive thing. at least she did go to college and was not sitting on her butt somewhere collecting welfare checks! she is now a teacher and guess what eclipse, she's getting married next month. that's right she's teaching someone else's child to read and add 2 + 2. as for my line sister that was pregnant when we were on line. we crossed in april and she had the baby in may. as for being out of commission, the semester and chapter activities were pretty much over for the summer. so she was able to come back full swing in the fall. and eclipse, she is married to her baby's father. so, left out i say go for it because i know an AKA that had 2 kids before joining and a Zeta that had three (twin girls at that) before joining. The Lord allows things to happen for reason. I don't have any kids, but my question is, why does a woman's identity have to change when she has a child. It's as if her life or what she wants ceases to exist. If these women had the support of family and friends to pursue their endeavors and The Lord made a way for them, then why knock them.