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Originally Posted by KD4Me
I pledged in January of my freshman year and received my first choice as a Big Sister. She was only a sophomore, but that spring she announced that she was getting married that summer and not returning to school. I don't think her husband was particularly enthusiastic about the whole sorority thing because she didn't even come to my initiation.  HER big sister stepped in and made my initiation week great. I literally don't think I ever saw her again after her wedding. During the next three years, I sometimes was envious of those girls who were close to their big sisters, and thought about how I could possibly have had someone different, if I had put another person first on my list. But that's just how it was, and some girls who had seniors as a big sister didn't have Bigs in the chapter, either. I got a little sister my sophomore year and was able to be there for her and have the relationship that I had wished that I would have with my Big Sister.
ngsu, my suggestion is to focus on the relationships that you DO have in the chapter. No need to cause awkwardness and drama.
BTW, I want to add that my big sis was a really great person and I don't hold it against her that she wasn't there for my initiation week. I really don't think her husband would let her come. I got the impression he was pretty controlling, and even as a 19-year old, I saw that. Pretty sure they eventually divorced. I wonder where she is today. |
This!
My big was someone I only talked to once and I thought she was a nice girl for the most part. However she had a super busy life and just ended up not really making anytime for me. She ended up dropping out of the sorority without telling me (which was a stressful story). Luckily I got close to the other sisters in my family/branch and my crescent cousin (Never knew if that was all GphiB's or just my chapter! but just a pre-big) who is an amazing mentor and just overall woman is now my God Big. Other sisters (including my god big) suggest that I get a permanent big this coming year but the way I see it I'm totally content with my god big as my "big" and just having her till she graduates this year because she fulfilled that role for me. I also plan on taking a little this upcoming semester and decide that I can just put my attention towards her!
Yes I agree that it sucks that you might have not had that "ideal" big-little relationship. I admit that for a few weeks after she dropped I was completely jealous of all those with their wonderful big/little relationship. But it's life! I would just start putting my focus now in my future twins