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Originally Posted by AZTheta
It's YOUR TURN to be the "Big". Sounds to me like you have some preconceived ideas of what your relationship is/was supposed to be, and you feel like you got "gypped" because you only had one year with your own "Big" and it wasnt the super close friendship you wanted. Oh well. Too bad, so sad.
You can nurture your own new "Littles" and see where that goes. And FWIW I'm still in contact with my own "Big" (from back when dinosaurs roamed the Earth) and I have no idea what happened to my "Littles". Time has a way of doing that, you know.
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Exactly. A Big is a mentor - she shows you the ropes, gets you acclimated, helps you learn what you need to know, etc. You don't need the tutelage anymore; you're an active member. You'll always have the relationship, but the relationship has changed. You're equals now. That doesn't mean that the love and closeness has changed.
It's your turn to nurture a new member(s). Take what she taught you and bring your little(s) into the fold. Make your Big proud.