Amen to the disaffiliation suggestion. I know a girl who will be a recruitment counselor this fall and she's always telling my daughters how much she hates 2 of the sororities on her campus inparticular--said she'd do anything to keep people from pledging one of them. And I'm to believe that she'll be fair?
When I rushed, our counselor told us that no one ever got cut by everyone after first parties. One girl did and others were almost totally cut. They were devastated first by being cut and second by their counselor's untruth.