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Originally posted by CarolinaDG
Hon, that's a TOTAL guy response! I mean, yeah, of course, guy's don't mind one night stands... they get to brag about it to all their friends afterwards (just like the Pike's just demonstrated). But, to girls, it's forbidden. It's one of those things that, even if a girl only has ONE one-night stand, she's looked down upon as a "slut." And I hate, hate, HATE when guys get girls drunk on PURPOSE to have her sleep with them.
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Yeah, that's a little fucked up - that strays into an area known as "rape" - but i see this side of it for girls, and actually it sucks for them b/c it's such an intense double standard. Anyway -
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Originally posted by CarolinaDG
I honestly don't see anything wrong with casual sex... for people who agree both ways that they want it. It's not something that I want to go around just doing, like it's nothing, but if you want to, that's your business.
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Call me a hopeless romantic, but I don't want the next time I have sex to be this drunken f***, rather a great experience with someone that I really care about, who I know will call me the next day, and who I know everything will be all right afterwards.
Here's my other thing:
I really don't want to sound like I have a big head or anything, but I AM good-looking. I go into bars, and I turn heads. So many people get mad at me because I don't have a boyfriend (and complain about not having a boyfriend), yet I have offers all of the time. But, this isn't necessarily a good thing. I get hit on... a LOT. I was set up to my formal with a Catholic virgin because I told people that for once I wanted a date who wasn't gonna pull the whole "I want you bad, baby" lines. My semi-formal date told a bunch of the guys who went with us that he WAS going to hook up with me by the end of the night. I get sick of being treated like crap. And, honestly, do guys think they're gonna get ANYWHERE by hanging out of a car window and yelling at me? Please!!
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I swear, I'm not a prude by any means. I go out, have drinks, and date a lot. But I also have high standards. And, to me, high standards isn't sleeping with the first guy who gets me drunk in a bar. The thing is, anyone can get a girl drunk and sleep with her, but it takes a real man to get a woman into bed by using his personality, looks, and charm.
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I agree with most everything you put up here - I'm very similar, and I'd say most people imagine themselves to be as well, in terms of dating desires etc.
Don't get me wrong, though - I wasn't pushing a pro-sex agenda here, or saying that everyone should just get bombed and hook up like it's an hourly job. However, as dumb as that concept might seem, it seems equally retarded (to my mind) to totally preclude as a possibility the idea of a purely physical experience.
Now, if that's outside of what someone's looking for right now, that's great - but that doesn't mean that we should immediately discredit the concept as ridiculous.
Now, that said - don't think I'm a dirtbag if I buy ya a drink, I promise I'm not just getting you drunk (most likely, I'm getting me drunk).
-RC