[pinksequins]

It sounds like the daughter is the problem more so than her mother: D doesn't want the rec to that group; D doesn't want to sign up with the Panhell; D assumes that she will simply choose. D sounds like a snob. Her mom sounds clueless and without sufficient experience (Greek at a competitive school) to set D straight.

While you could request the resume, brace yourself for an abrupt, "No thanks, I don't like that group. They are ------". You have already kindly offered a rec. Your graciousness need go no further.