Not to sidetrack, but I HAVE gotten thank-yous (usually) from my chapters when the rec is sent, and I usually get a thank-you from the PNM. We emphasize that in our alum panhellenic.
But I RARELY hear anything from a chapter after bid day. I just wish they would send out a list of their new members with the girls' hometowns. It would be so easy to send via e-mail - I mean, surely they've compiled the girls on a spreadsheet...and surely they've got some sort of master list of alumnae who've sent recs, so they can request recs next year....right?
(Yeah, I know the answer
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