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I have had a couple of "coffee dates" for PNM's. I am not one to give glowing reviews based on my short meeting with these young ladies for several reasons:
1) Most of the time they wait until the very last minute to get the necessary rec. I hear from my alumnae chapter president that someone needs a rec, will I meet with her in less than 2 days. If you are going to wait until the last minute for something that is suppose to be important to you, will you let your chapter down by waiting until the last minute to accomplish a necessary task?
2) I find I don't get to really know the young ladies. I am spending 10 -30 minutes with them and they EXPECT a glowing review. I can read their resume, so can the chapter. As stated above, I have no idea about her character. I feel like they have not made any effort to locate anyone from Kappa Delta among those at school, work, family friends, etc. I have been made to feel that they don't know any Kappa Deltas because all of their family friends are from what they perceive to be "top tier" sororities.
When I fill out the recommendation, I make it clear to the chapter that this rec is based on a short meeting, I don't really know the young lady and I can only recommend based on the fact she was not strung out when I met her, the resume looks good, and she acted human in front of me but no idea what she is like outside of our coffee date. I have also been VERY bothered by the fact that I gave up my time to help them get the necessary rec but they don't let me know the outcome of their recruitment, never write a thank you note and act like we are obligated to do this for them.
DaffyKD
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