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Well, one problem is that it is difficult (and incredibly intrepid) to create completely 'new' roles in relationships - if not impossible.
The vast majority of 'new roles for women' we're discussing now aren't really new, more likely they were just covered by the man before. An example would be that the man was expected for many years to be the 'provider' - order for the lady, pay for the lady, make enough money to take care of the lady.
Well, now that the lady can take care of her damn self, thank you very much *three snaps, z formation*, the man has to find a new role, or share the old one. The issue is, what roles are now open for the man?
Most of the discussion centers here, I think, about pre-marital relationships, so the man can't sink into the role of care-taker for children, etc, to 'pick up the slack' so to speak.
I think the real issue here is what 'new' roles should men come up with? Otherwise, it will of course seem like most men are having their role decreased - b/c for all intents and purposes they are. Until new roles in a relationship are created, any addition to a woman's role will decrease the man's.
Perhaps the solution is less adding to the woman's role in a relationship, and more shifting the roles - ie adding in one place, subtracting in another (by adding this to the male role).
Then again, all men are pigs . . . at least according to Sex in the City.
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