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Originally Posted by ASUADPi
I'm obviously in the minority here, but I don't understand the big deal. Unless you are on a campus where there are 1-3 sororities and 1-3 fraternities, I'm not sure why you are freaking out over your boyfriends frat not "doing things" with your sorority.
Maybe its because I went to a big Greek campus (where with 12 sororities and like 15 fraternities it was more likely you wouldn't "partner" with a fraternity than you would).
You can't change things that happened before you were a member of the chapter. You also can't change the opinions (very easily) of the more established, older members of your boyfriends fraternity.
If it is such a big deal to you (which you should really be finding out if it is a big deal to the rest of the chapter and not just you), you should follow the advice given and try to plan a mixer. If it's only you who really cares that your boyfriends frat isn't hanging out with y'all, you kind of just need to get over it. If your chapter as a whole doesn't care that his frat wants nothing to do with them...you then just need to let it go.
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I don't see the big deal, either. His friends don't like your friends. You're not dating his friends. Your friends aren't dating his friends. Eff it. Not your problem.
If they say bad things about your sisters in front of you, look them square in the eye and say "My sisters are amazing. You don't know that though, because you don't hang out with them." and then walk away. This isn't your problem to solve. If the chapter wants to deal with it, great. If they don't, let it go.
Worrying about what his friends think about your friends just screams insecurity.
They're "We're too good because we're climbing the social rankings" screams insecurity even louder. Groups that are that focused on ranking are trying too hard and are never really going to excel as a group. Don't get caught up in their games.