[AXOmom]

My daughter was in a similar situation. It wasn't that extreme - nobody hated each other, but due to a minor incident at a party, there were some older girls in her sorority who did not hold an overall favorable impression of her boyfriend's fraternity (they liked him, but they thought he was an outlier). In addition, both his fraternity and her sorority had other groups they had been hanging out with for a while, and they weren't up for change. It wasn't that they NEVER did anything together, but it was rare.

AXiDTrish's suggestions sound great. Daughter tried some similar things (she was social chair for a year, so she was in a position to do a few things although she didn't push it much), and they were helpful.

If all you are shooting for is an occasional social then those things should indeed work over time, but I hope that is all you are asking of these two groups. If what you really want is for them to become besties, you might be in for a bit of a disappointment.

Daughter was bound and determined that she and she alone was going to make sure that her sorority became the new favorite group for boyfriend's fraternity (and vice-versa). Imagine her shock when both groups felt they had their own friend groups quite well established, thank you very much, and as I said, they weren't terribly interested in changing it all up because she and BF decided to date.

Eventually she accepted this (what choice did she have) and came to realize that while it was nice when they did socialize once in a blue moon, having two separate groups of friends that didn't interact regularly had some serious advantages.


Good luck!