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Originally Posted by tld221
Please let me know if this is encroaching on membership selection/nonya business territory:
I've read over there years here that PNMs are somewhat discouraged (at the very least, not totally ENcouraged) to affiliate with their sorority if they transfer colleges. The idea seems to be that XYZ at University of GC and XYZ at GC State could be SO apples and oranges in terms of personality that it's not worth it. Or worse, the XYZs at GC State just aren't that into you (ranging from "she's so meh" to "what a hot messity mess!") and have jurisdiction to reject Transfer Tracy.
I also have read threads where current NPC members argue the logistics of transferring membership: having room in the house, quota numbers, difference in collegiate dues costs...
Of course this is apples and oranges in my NPHC brain, and perhaps I'm just not meant to understand. I just wonder about those transfer XYZ girls who probably could use their sisterhood, or a sister (or hundred) when coming to a new college. On the flipside, are collegiate members taught to welcome transferring members as their sister?
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I think that the advice given here has a slightly finer point. We discourage women from affiliating WITH THE INTENT to transfer. There are many reasons this plan can backfire, like the things you mention above, but they pretty much fall into two categories: 1) The chapter may not think the member is a good fit and 2) The member may not think the chapter is a good fit.
I think #1 primarily occurs when it looks like the member intentionally rushed at Tiny Commuter School and transferred to Big State U. Yes, the woman is still a sister, but this is one of those things that they have to put the kibosh on, because if BSU allowed this as a matter of course, it seriously hurts the chapter at TCS.
IME, if a woman transfers into a school for a legitimate reason, and meets the requirements of membership for that chapter, they are not likely to reject her attempt to affiliate, even if it's unlikely that's the chapter that she would have ended up with had she rushed there. To be blunt, I have seen women affiliate with top chapters who probably would have been dropped by those same chapters in FR, as long as she had grades, could pay the dues, etc.
OTOH, I have actually seen #2 a lot more often. Greek Life can be so different from one school to the next that a member may not want to affiliate because it's not what she signed up for. For example, member transfers from TCS to BSU, and never had any intention of living in a sorority house. She chooses not to affiliate, and gets to keep her membership the rest of her life.