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Old 02-24-2014, 05:18 AM
GammaGirl1908 GammaGirl1908 is offline
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Originally Posted by calgirl15 View Post
And now they act like nothing has changed between us and act like my best friend.
Others have covered the "get involved in other activities" angle very well. I will point out that I wasn't Greek in college*, and I had a ball and was plenty busy. I had a job, did research projects in my major, took lots of interesting classes, partied, made friends, and volunteered. Of course every campus is different, but I suspect you can do any or all of the above on your campus without being Greek.

However, I wanted to note your statement above.

They didn't not extend you a bid because they hated you and wanted to humiliate you. Lots of sororities, for whatever reason, can't extend bids to PNMs that they like very much. It wasn't necessarily a rejection of you as a person because you weren't worthy of being their friend. According to their specific words, there was a cutoff you didn't quite make. That doesn't automatically mean that none of them want to be friends with you, or that there's something wrong with you.

You likely lost at a numbers game. Don't assign more meaning to that than it deserves.


(*I belong to an NPHC that I joined after college, and I knew during college that I had that option available to me, so I didn't spend a lot of energy on it.)
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