I would have taken my grandmothers advise and gone through recruitment as a freshman. I had a boyfriend who didn't want me to do it and like a FOOL I listen to him.
I think it would have been interesting to see who I got invited back to as a freshman rather than an undervalued sophmore, but I KNOW that I would have choosen Alpha Xi Delta anyway. I went through looking for girl friends - I was one of those girls that had lots of guy friends in highschool. Alpha Xi was a great group - maybe not number one on campus - but number one in my heart, then and now.
When I was in the chapter and some of us would be sitting around lamenting that we didn't get to mix with such and such fraternity we would play the "if you could have gone anywhere" game. And while we all thought there was a group that we didn't get to go back to during recruitment that we would have like too, we all agreed that we wouldn't change where we pledged. It's more about the people than the name. All five bridesmaids in my wedding were Alpha Xi's - 4 from my chapter and 1 from the chapter that I advise. I never would have met any of them without Alpha Xi Delta.
Alpha Xi is the best decision I ever made - my only regret is not going through a year earlier so I could have been at home with my sisters sooner!
