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Originally Posted by Lalucas
It should be at least informed consent... all of these girls volunteer to put themselves in this situation...I think the travesty is that they don't realize what it will be like.. both emotionally and the "numbers game".
And unfortunately the rho gams can't tell them the full story...can't tell them that they have "no chance at DDD because you are brunette and since they got in trouble for having too many brunettes/NYC/Jewish girls...take your pick... last year they are only looking for blondes this year... tall skinny blondes...
or you don't' come from the "right" neighborhood for that sorority...they all come from Chicago or Carmel etc... yes they can google and zillow your home to see if you have enough money to join Visa-Visa-MasterCard sorority.
Unfortunately, the low down on the sororities is not transparent.. enough to be a level playing field.
But then again who said it was supposed to be?
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Wow--just wow. As someone who comes from a bi-racial background, and lives in a very diverse community, I have to say that I have never heard a tirade like that. Significantly, my daughter
is my daughter--so she reflects that diversity as well. The statements above are not only patently false, but border on outright bigotry.
Beyond that, I will only address one of these incredibly negative and provocative statements. This year, more than any other year, the IU system--with its many horrible flaws--- was discussed ad nauseam with PNM's. It was in fact, as transparent as the process can be. It sucks, it is completely arbitrary and unfair and it results in unbelievable angst. The pain is amplified by the fact that the system is slow to change--and we can postulate on the reasons and those responsible, but that is not productive.
My daughter chose to be a rhogam;and she spent many hours preparing pnm's for the grind of recruitment and the possible outcome. I can assure you, that they were told to "put it all out there", this year. Unfortunately there is nothing that can really prepare an 18 year old for the emotional roller coaster that may--and often at IU, results in profound disappointment. The women who take on the responsibility of guiding PNM's through the process do it because they care.They sweat, cry and they too were devastated by bad news and were joyful when the news was good. To paraphrase her, there is no rhyme or reason to this process, it is about connection, timing, and most importantly luck. And BTW--she related to me that it was also the "worst week of her 21 year old life".
As far as your comments Lalucas; I do not know you, and I certainly don't presume to know your situation. I hope that this does not reflect your approach to life, will assume you are having a bad day and that you felt safe in making those comments because you are online and anonymous. The best to you.
I am wondering if it is time to end this thread.......