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Originally Posted by Lalucas
paper resume vs personalities
I concur with FSUZETA above... you are all thinking like mom's in a rationale way...thinking that the rush process is about credentials like philanthropic activities instead of social aspects.
“In high school she was Homecoming court and prom princess as well as varsity dance captain and class secretary- and with a friend from home created an foundation that single handedly raised a quarter of a million dollars for a cancer family center after her friends dad passed from a brain tumor... She got a 3.5 gpa first semester at IU and participated at several campus philanthropic events-“
“did not get a bid, she has a very similar past, she was in the honor society , volunteered everyday with special needs all thru high school instead of taking study hall, has done mission work in Africa and The Dominican Republic.”
instead of like girls looking for future roommates and new sisters that will attract the "hot frats" to choose your house for homecoming. When girls are voting/discussing the PNM's would they even know the resume or GPA of your daughter? doubtful. Do you think it is a blind vote? the current members aren't looking at it that way...
What I"m trying to say is that it is unfortunate that the valuable contributitions that your daughters have already or will contribute to an adult society are not what is of value during recruitment. Philo events are not the main focus of IU sorority girls life... but parties and boys and drinking are. School work and intensive career choices like dance majors are not the emphasis for the sorority life that I see from my daughter and her friends who are all in various sororities at IU.
that said.. Dance Marathon is a big event in the fall where contacts and relationships can be made...that said word on the street is that many people join those committees for their resumes and the parties related to it. oh yeah there is that one weekend too.
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That is kind of sad
my daughter was very social this fall not just participating in philanthropic events. Tailgating and such with all her friends who did get bids--- she made all her social media private because her rho gam suggested they do hat - maybe with those traits as ones they were looming for she should have kept them open for actives to see that while dedicated to her career choice of he long others - through kinesiology she still knew how to have a good Hoosier time- and what you are saying makes me hunk that YES in fact the two dance girls my daughter included that didn't get bids were in fact penalized for their chosen path and requirement to put in a conflict sheet for them perform during 12 party and rehearse during 21. It ended up she had a break during 21 when her rehearsal was but that conflict form was still in the hands of the houses prior to choosing for 12.
She will probably return to the process next year and once again attend all the events she did- she will also try to spend as much time as an independent with her friends who are now pledges at little 5... Shame it has come to her displaying her party side to get a bid to a house. So much for demure lol