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Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor
With not getting into membership selection a lot of going through recruitment is who you know. Recruitment is not a science. It is a lot about the way people connect with each other much like dating is. Sometimes one feels the connection but not the other and it goes both ways. A lot of recruitment, whether we want to admit it or not, is how you look and dress and the conversations and connection.
Vent. This site is not good on letting people vent. These Moms are hurting and if you don't have a child that has gone through the process I don't think you can comment or judge what these women are feeling. It is crushing when your daughter calls you in tears. A Mom wants to fix things. It is hard to advise your kid when you are hurting because they are hurting. I do this and get it and it was the most difficult process I have ever gone through including my own recruitment experience. These women are hurting we need to let them hurt. Don't get offended when they tell us what their daughters felt about certain chapters. They don't know you and are just writing it down to work through the grieving process. I personally have not once read elitist or entitled into one of their post. I have read that a Mom is hurting and is trying to make sense of the process. We need to cut them some slack.
Indiana. This was a school my daughter had on her radar very early on. I said absolutely not. There are to many fabulous Universities that have thriving Greek systems that I can give my money to. I will protest with my money.When someone asks me about the Greek system at Indiana I'm honest and tell them it has the most horrible process in the country and recommend if they want to go Greek to do it at another University. I also direct them to the Pan website and have them read those comments. Not many choose to go there after being educated.
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This whole post is spot on, but especially the highlighted parts. I'm not a mom, but I recently became a stepmom so I get feeling your daughter's pain and wanting to help.
I haven't been on Greek Chat that long and don't have that many posts, but I've read just about everything pertaining to recruitment because I'm a new alum advisor to a fairly new-ish chapter (I am a speed reader, it's not like I spend my life on here or anything.
) and I've gotten some great information here. I would steer anyone to whom having a full-blown sorority experience is critical to their college happiness away from Indiana. I'm sure the process works for a lot of women and they are happy with their bids, but perhaps they don't come here to post. Good for you, AXORushAdvisor, for voting with your dollars. I would have done the same thing.
As far as the housed/unhoused debate - my northeast school didn't have sorority houses - or apartments - or dorms. We did have chapter rooms. I guess it's a case of "not missing what you have never known", although having a house might have been fun. It certainly didn't detract from my experience in any way.
One final thought, I feel bad for the unhoused chapters that no one wants to join - even though my sorority does have a house at Indiana. That is a hurdle that is hard to overcome.