[AOII Angel]

Realize that IU doesn't really reject 40% of PNMs. Can someone find that thread with the real numbers? I have to go to work. The majority of those numbers are due to PNMs not making grades between 21 party and the beginning of rush the next semester. IU isn't perfect, but numbers aren't that low. The biggest thing to remember with all of this "mutual selection" drama is that increasing quota wouldn't necessarily mean that you or your daughters would have been offered a bid to your/ her dream sorority. The odds are that you/ she would still have been released. The PNM "ranking" does nothing other than accept offered party invitations. We used to get the invitations in the morning and pick which ones we wanted to attend but with computers, it is all done overnight with a party list generated for the PNM in the morning. The rank list doesn't influence how the sororities vote so ranking unhoused groups last does nothing if all the housed groups release you. (I personally think the Rho Gamma should be shot for giving out that very unpanhellenic, prejudicial, inflammatory advice.) Mutual selection is mutual for the highly sought after women who are invited back every where and their lists decide their invites. It doesn't seem so mutual when you get down to the PNMs that haven't made an impression on any of the groups and ends up with few invites. BUT, what we alumnae know is that those women often make amazing members if they can give it a try and get past the tent talk. Greek life, whether in a housed or unhoused chapter, has so much to offer. Choosing to not sign a bid card is one option, but giving it an honest try and seeing what fun might be in store once all the recruitment crap is over may be the best decision you/ she ever made.