[ASTalumna06]

And another thing that has been pointed out here on Greekchat numerous times:

Sometimes chapters know PNMs better than they know themselves.

We've read numerous stories where a PNM falls in love with a chapter, doesn't receive a bid from them, "settles" on another chapter, and finds that they never truly belonged in that other chapter anyway. They LOVE their sorority and couldn't imagine being anywhere else.

Some chapters have particular personalities, or things they're looking for in PNMs, or things they're not looking for, or any number of things, that can let them know that a PNM is not a good fit for their chapter. The sororities (perhaps inadvertently) are sometimes making the best decisions for the PNMs by not offering them bids. That might sound strange, but we've also read stories about PNMs falling in love with a chapter during recruitment, accepting a bid from them, and later regretting it. Some of those people have openly admitted that they fell in love with that chapter for all of the wrong reasons (e.g. reputation, colors/symbols, the best house, etc.). And sometimes chapters just provide the best recruitment experience - food, decorations, chanting, great conversations, emotional pref parties - and then fall flat once "real-life" kicks in, giving new members the feeling that they were simply too caught up in the experience of it all to really notice what the sisters were truly like.

Regardless, don't get angry with the chapters. This is a complicated process and every experience of every PNM is different. Sometimes things work out and sometimes they don't, on both the PNM and chapter side of recruitment.