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Originally Posted by Mom64
She is not bitter at all, just disappointed. I think that asking all these PNMs to give it a shot is asking more of them than of the houses. Most of the houses didn't give them a shot.
And while you criticize a rushee who has met maybe 10% of the chapter for making a conclusion, why can no one admit that having only 10% of their chapter making a conclusion about a rushee any different. And all of these sororities who do not invite certain PNMs back, isn't it because they feel they are not the right fit or not good enough for them,why do the PNMs get criticized for feeling this way about certain houses?
Again, no she is not bitter, she is a bit anxious about who she will live with next year, the changes in her social life, etc. but she is a strong, smart young woman who will do quite well with or without the sorority membership.
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What's ironic to me is that you've been arguing that all of these beautiful, intelligent, well-rounded women are "getting hosed" by the system by being invited back to the chapter that "has to take them," when if all of those beautiful, intelligent, well-rounded women accepted their bid to that chapter, that chapter would be the beautiful, intelligent, well-rounded chapter.
Greek life is truly what you make of it. That's why everyone is telling you that your daughter should make lemons out of lemonade. Or she could move on and not be Greek. It's totally her decision. But of course we'd all prefer she take the first course of action and give it a chance. We're Greek.. we love it! And all 26 NPCs have something great to offer.
The reason we comment on the PNMs needing to be open-minded about a chapter whose membership they only know a fraction of is because they're not part of a chapter. At the end of the process, the chapter members are making a different decision than the PNMs. The chapters decide who to invite back. The PNMs decide to either accept their bid and be Greek, or reject it.
Every sorority has to make cuts. That's just how it is. They can't invite back all 1800 PNMs to the 2nd round. They HAVE to make decisions based on those few discussions; there's no other option. They don't have anything against your daughter, or any other PNM. And sometimes, it doesn't work out for them, either. I'm sure we've all had members who we thought would be great who turned out to be a grade risk, or party too hard, or who is just completely unsisterly. Some of those sisters are removed from the chapter. The sororities can make mistakes, and so can the PNMs. Sometimes the mistake is not accepting a bid. Sometimes the mistake is accepting a bid and not having it work out. It's a gamble. But like I said before - we want PNMs to experience Greek life the same way that we all have. We want them to fall in love with a chapter, and with their sorority as a whole. And that love extends far beyond the 4 years in college.