[DubaiSis]

I wouldn't call it criticism so much (although I can appreciate you would) but more of an analysis of the situation. The sororities all have more than 100 members and some significantly more than 100 members. The rushees meet somewhere around 15 members during the entire process. They do TRY to match members to rushees of similar experience and interest, but especially with a new chapter this is pretty hard to do considering the massive number of rushees. We say you should give it a shot because more than likely if she gave it a shot she would make friends and be happy. Many GCers came from struggling chapters and they find it very frustrating that a girl will for whatever reason not give THAT chapter a chance. They know that they had a fantastic sisterhood and all of the great memories that the top chapters had. To hear a rushee who has met MAYBE 10% of the chapter say the group is an incohesive mess is heartbreaking. BUT, being in THAT chapter is not right for everyone. You have to have serious nerve to take on the unknown.

Best of luck to your daughter. IU has a lot to offer beyond sorority membership. She'll be fine, and hopefully won't spend the next 40 years of her life bitter. And yes, I have friends in their 40's and 50's who are bitter about sorority women.

And to the above, no, those unhoused chapters DON'T have to take everyone they can get. This is the misconception of the large pledge classes. They still have to make cuts according to RFM just as all of the housed chapters do. The way RFM works at IU (as I understand it), the chapters pre-determine the pledge class size. Then they are given a number they have to reach after each round of rush by an outside person. Yes, their cuts aren't as stringent as the most competitive chapters who have pre-determined a smaller pledge class size, but they still have to cut to get to their numbers.