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Originally Posted by Sigmapsimom
I'm sorry if I offended you, that was not my intent. There will always be some chapters who are stronger than others. My only point was that physical proximity is something that was important to her and most of the pnms going through formal recruitment at IU without a doubt. Club was definitely not the right word to use. It's just not the experience she wants of rooming with sisters, having frats surprise serenade them at their house, etc.
My daughter's Rho gamma openly advised her pnms to always rank the unhoused chapters last, because "they invite everyone back." This is not very comforting nor appealing to anyone. It's dirty rushing IMO.
Being in a chapter that pnms cry about being invited to their prefs or even worse don't show up to can be difficult for those chapter members too. I know many girls in my daughter's rush group dropped today rather than go to them. That's not fair to those chapters. In a way, the women in those chapters are going through the rush rejection again in a different yet similar way that many of them experienced as pnms. Nobody wants to feel that kind of rejection once let alone twice. I don't think I want this for my daughter, although I have not expressed that to her. I have remained positive trying to salvage what is left of her confidence today. I will support whatever she decides.
Added: she just texted me and said a ton of girls did not show up for the first party. I feel bad for the sorority members.
Sorry so long and disjointed. My mind has been racing because of the pain in my daughter's voice this morning. I have realized that you can't compare Iu recruitment to anywhere else, even my personal experience, so please don't take my opinions from IU recruitment and compare them to your campus. I am a rush advisor for my chapter and the experience is completely different there. There are always disappointments, but overall the experience is positive for 90%+ of the pnms and members.
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So in terms of the unhoused chapters being disappointed that many PMN's are not interested in pledging, perhaps they would be wise to accept the option offered to them of being housed in dorm floors. This would make a huge difference for those PNM's looking for a "live-in" experience.