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Originally Posted by irishpipes
College is a time for personal growth. You wrote that you have never had friends that didn't care about superficial things and money. Maybe this is a good time to expand your friendship base. I think your writing makes your feelings sound worse than they really are. I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt that you are just a normal, young person who is hesitant about making a commitment without some guarantee of the result. I think it is absolutely normal to be cautious about pledging a group that seems very different from you. Colonies often have an identity problem, because they are the only sorority new members who are not chosen from the chapter, so they often encompass a lot of different "types" and lack a cohesive personality until they get going and have a few recruitments under their belt.
I would think long and hard about giving up your bid. You have a while until initiation/installation. Give it a chance. Maybe you can be a good example of taking care of your appearance and pushing a positive image for your sorority. Maybe your colony sisters can be a good example to you to let go of such an attachment to the superficial. Anyone who says the superficial doesn't matter at all is lying, but certainly it can be over emphasized. Maybe your colony will be able to strike a good balance, and maybe you can help make that happen. If you go into this thinking you are better than the other colony members, this will never work. Don't think of it as needing to "change" your new sisters. Think of it as learning from each other.
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Thank you for that! While I am bittersweet, I do feel like this could be a life changing experience where I become a better person... the person that I want to be. I do feel that I, while not dominant in a normal social setting, could make a great leader in this group. I don't necessarily think I am better than the other members... just that instinctually, I want something very different than what I've seen so far. But I am going to stick with it and adjust before thinking about dropping.