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Originally posted by lovelyivy84
Well if the rest of you won't admit it then I will. I want a college educated husband.
Sorry if that makes me an elitist snob, but that IS what I want. He doesn't have to be a Hah-vud grad or anything, but have an andvanced degree! I worked TOO HARD to get mine and maybe this is just my opinion, or maybe one that is influenced by my family's immigrant background, but I see that degree as a sign of ambition, which I like.
Also, at some point in my life I will probably have children. If that happens, I want to be home to raise them (oh such a quaint old-fashioned notion I know, but I have seen TOO MANY good women torn up over the choice between career and home, and yes it definitely DOES make a difference on their children). For that to happen, the man needs to make enough so that I can stay home comfortably.
Chances are increased if that man has a degree.
I just wonder if any of you women who are deploring those of us who know what we want in a man have ever even had a serious relationship with a man who didn't have a college education, or are you having some kind of knee jerk reaction? It's nice to say that it doesn't matter, but for me at least, I am looking at the reality instead of the rosey world of the way things "should" be.
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Oooh, I hope you're not reading from *my* message that I deplore anyone who wants anything. I don't think that anyone is an elitist snob, either. I am just saying that *for me* it doesn't matter.
Yes, I have had serious relationships with non-college educated men, and relationships with men who have advanced degrees (as I do). I honestly do not care. A degree does NOT equal ambition; just because someone has an advanced degree does not mean that he is ambitious or that he can even hold down a job -- believe me, I speak from experience.
My opinion might be colored by the fact that I don't want to have children now and doubt that I ever will, and even if I did, I don't see myself staying home with them.
For some reason (and I don't know where it comes from because my mom was a stay at home mom) I just could never, ever imagine myself being financially dependent on ANYONE. Please don't read this as hating on those of you who would make that choice because that is not my intent and I have all the respect in the world for EVERY woman, regardless of what she chooses to do with her life. It's just not my thing. For me, as long as a guy can support himself, that's cool with me because I intend to always support myself. To me, I want an equal, not anyone who is "a little more" and anyway, who could be "a little more" than I am?!