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Could be you have excellent radar. I know lots of girls (just reading these boards) who wish they had a better sense of what would work and what wouldn't. You aren't wasting a lot of time like so many do only to find out it isn't meant to be.
Chemistry is so strange-there was a thread on it a while back and like you, most feel if the chemistry isn't there, it never will be so move on.
I've never been a believer that you can grow to love someone if the chemistry isn't there right off the bat, yet many have said that one day they realized they loved their friend.
I see it as an attraction, compatability, love sequence.
You say he hurt you deeply. This can really play havoc with your mind when it comes to relationships. Sometimes people will seal off that part of them that allows a relationship to deepen because they don't ever want to be that vulnerable again. Are you totally over the other guy? Do you find youself comparing others to him? I know when my hubby and I broke up while dating, I would go out with some of the most HORRIFIC guys. I always wondered WHY?!? I finally figured it out. I was just waiting, passing time because I always knew we would get back together and these other guys would NEVER be a serious involvement. Weird isn't it!
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