My daughter has a good rule she follows. Never stop/change your life for a guy.
She has sisters who do exactly what you all are talking about.
Do you drop your friends and create a new life around your boyfriend or do you keep your regular schedule and have a boyfriend that "enhances" your life and brings out the best in you? Do you even HAVE other involvements? These are all rhetorical questions and insights.
Do you feel a need to "win" a prize or have someone reassure you that you are attractive?
A lot of girls buy into the concept that they need a guy to show other girls (or guys) how desireable they are.
Have you ever allowed yourself to experience true independance?
Do you like yourself enough, are you confident enough to be alone with YOU?
How physically "involved" do you get with another person in such a short time span?
What is the longest you've ever gone without a boyfriend?
Maybe you just aren't ready.
It is one of those "truths" in life, it's going to happen to you sooner or later. (KARMA
) Maybe it already has and you are afraid of it happening again so you protect yourself by being the FIRST one to do the dumping. It takes TIME, so why not slow down the pace and give BOTH of you a chance.